Let me see if I understand this. Your top choices right now are to send the tapes to her boyfriend, who may try to kill you, or send porn involving his mother to her son; a son who has a psycho-nutjob in the family, and may not be all that stable himself. Sounds like a winning proposition either way.
Look, she's nuts. Like it or not, your best bet is to change your contact info so she can't find you, and forget about her and her problems. If you explain that you're being harassed, your phone company should let you change numbers, and if you're in a dorm, the school should let you swap rooms (and hopefully buildings). If you're in an apartment, well, I don't know what the situation will be, but maybe they'd let you transfer your lease to another unit they own. Making a big circus out of it sounds fun and all, but if you play out any of these hysterical scenarios to their logical conclusions, they just aren't that amusing. Furthermore, when you talk about threatening or blackmailing her, you're expecting a sensible, measured response, and the thrill of her realizing that you have her over a barrel. But remember, she's nuts, and she very well might not respond in any way you expect. When people do things like this, any reaction from you typically feeds their obsession, so the best thing for both of you is just to take it upon yourself to sever contact completely, even if it isn't fair for you to have to do all the work. Suck it up, and get on with your life. When she realizes that you can't even be bothered to argue with her about it, you'll have the soul-crushing victory you seem to want, even if you're not there to enjoy it.
You seemed to indicate that the police are already involved - so just keep telling them if she keeps contacting you. Even if the citations aren't a huge deal, they'll establish a paper trail, lead to uncomfortable situations for your jilted lover, and can be used to get a restraining order later, if necessary. And seriously, $200 per pop several times per month is nothing to sneeze at. But it's pretty likely that, since she's nuts, she'll soon have moved on to obsessing over whatever else is in her life in due course, and she'll forget about you.
Lesson to learn from this: If a woman who would have to be nuts to be interested in you is interested in you, she probably is nuts.
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