Thread: Well, sweet

I work in an office full of women, who are mostly older than me. My girlfriend also works in this office. A co-worker recently pointed out that I had a large spot on the back of my pants, and so I tried to make it to the bathroom so I could wash it off. Before I could, my manager started to make fun of me, demanding to see the back of my pants. Everyone starts cracking jokes about me being on my period. The collections officer, also a female, comes out with maxi-pads, asking if I need them. I am growing more uncomfortable with anyone looking at the back of my pants. My boss then pages my girlfriend, and has her come in to try and get me to show off the stain. I refuse. My boss asks me if I need a nurse to look at it, so she pages a nurse. The nurse comes out, sees how badly this is embarassing me and freaking me out, and just walks away.

After about ten minutes of being literally cornered, my boss simply goes, "Well, if you hadn't been giving a reaction, we wouldn't have kept teasing you." Which is kind of ass-backwards, because my reaction was a direct result of my boss making fun of me. My girlfriend showed no support, and joined in the festivities.

Being the only guy here, I feel really harrassed, and kind of pissed off. I'm all for joking, but when someone starts shoving maxi-pads in my face, I feel a line has been crossed.

yes

What gets me is that if you had pulled this same thing on a woman, shit would have hit the fucking fan and you'd be out a job and +1 lawsuit.

Especially in a place where you're the only guy.

so what was the stain?

did you shit yourself again?

Originally Posted by MalReynolds

I work in an office full of women, who are mostly older than me. My girlfriend also works in this office. A co-worker recently pointed out that I had a large spot on the back of my pants, and so I tried to make it to the bathroom so I could wash it off. Before I could, my manager started to make fun of me, demanding to see the back of my pants. Everyone starts cracking jokes about me being on my period. The collections officer, also a female, comes out with maxi-pads, asking if I need them. I am growing more uncomfortable with anyone looking at the back of my pants. My boss then pages my girlfriend, and has her come in to try and get me to show off the stain. I refuse. My boss asks me if I need a nurse to look at it, so she pages a nurse. The nurse comes out, sees how badly this is embarassing me and freaking me out, and just walks away.

After about ten minutes of being literally cornered, my boss simply goes, "Well, if you hadn't been giving a reaction, we wouldn't have kept teasing you." Which is kind of ass-backwards, because my reaction was a direct result of my boss making fun of me. My girlfriend showed no support, and joined in the festivities.

Being the only guy here, I feel really harrassed, and kind of pissed off. I'm all for joking, but when someone starts shoving maxi-pads in my face, I feel a line has been crossed.

You handled this pretty poorly.

I would have cried to make them all feel bad

Sue for sexual harassment

Originally Posted by Absolution

You handled this pretty poorly.

Who the fuck are you to say I handled this poorly? Please tell me, Mr. Office Worker, what you would have done in the situation? Outside of violence, there was literally nothing I could do as I was cornered. Of course, you know how to the handle the situation, you snot nosed fucking kid. Christ, cut my grass for $10, it'll be the first and only job you'll ever have to work for, you motherfucking idiot.

Mal, try explaining the situation to your boss's boss.

And dump your girlfriend for being a bitch.

Originally Posted by Think

give him a break guys

((he's on his period))

After that last post you may be right.

Originally Posted by TheOriginalGrumpySpy

It's true, Absolution is quite stupid.

While this is a true statement, Absolution was not wrong itt

so true what your boss said

Originally Posted by Infernus

Sue for sexual harassment

THIS



or just complain to the HR people and the bosses of your bosses. you can get them in deeeeeep shit for that.

oh god cry about it

you gotta handle this shit with a sense of humour jesus

Sue for sexual harassment. Or emotional distress.

The judge will laugh at you behind your back.

Its called hostile work environment and its worth looking into.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hostile_work_environment

yes it is a hostile work environment, but it's a situation that is blown out of proportion by the victim. I've been in his shoes before and the only reason this seems as bad as it does to him is because he's taking them seriously. This is, as far as I can tell, an isolated incident where he got ribbed a bit. Treat it with humour and don't take them seriously and you'll be fine in the exact same situation every time.

Now, if this kind of thing was done every day well my interpretation would be a bit different

Originally Posted by Mr. E

The judge will laugh at you behind your back.

Who cares if you're rich.

Originally Posted by coqauvin

yes it is a hostile work environment, but it's a situation that is blown out of proportion by the victim. I've been in his shoes before and the only reason this seems as bad as it does to him is because he's taking them seriously. This is, as far as I can tell, an isolated incident where he got ribbed a bit. Treat it with humour and don't take them seriously and you'll be fine in the exact same situation every time.

Now, if this kind of thing was done every day well my interpretation would be a bit different

This kind of harassment isn't every day, but they often talk about leaving period blood on the toilet seats, along with pubic hair, and then make fun of me for not wanting to use the restrooms at work. They talk about guys they want to fuck while I'm in ear shot, and each time I make it known I'm uncomfortable they just laugh and laugh and talk about it louder, or wait until I'm back in the room to resume talking about it.

At some point today, it went from being a funny gag, to being the entire back office ganging up on me, and being unrelenting about wanting to start at the seat of my pants for no other reason than it was making me squirm. And I did go along with it, just like I go along with all the other bullshit that gets pulled, but today, they took it too far.

Originally Posted by Infernus

Who cares if you're rich.

Suing people for petty stuff like this is just lazy.

Originally Posted by Mr. E

Suing people for petty stuff like this is just lazy.

Unless you happen to like money

ok maybe I should have said avaricious instead of lazy

Rape your boss.

Seriously though, they WOULDN'T have kept at it if you had been a good sport and laughed it off. Maybe you should have been the one that said "Oh, I guess I AM on my period" and acted chill about it.So there you go.

You need to do something now that will reaffirm your status as an alpha male that will devirginize and impregnate as you see fit. I suggest a very aggressive and crass retort like, "I suggest you shut up before I knock your teeth out, and fuck your throat." I mean that's just a very general idea, but maybe some food for thought.

I probably would have taken with good humour on the outside but died of embarrassment and hurt feelings on the inside.

Anyway, your girlfriend sounds like a bitch.

wash yer dang pants!

Originally Posted by MalReynolds

They talk about guys they want to fuck while I'm in ear shot, and each time I make it known I'm uncomfortable they just laugh and laugh and talk about it louder, or wait until I'm back in the room to resume talking about it.

Depending on the language they use that could be considered sexual harassment.

Originally Posted by MalReynolds

This kind of harassment isn't every day, but they often talk about leaving period blood on the toilet seats, along with pubic hair, and then make fun of me for not wanting to use the restrooms at work. They talk about guys they want to fuck while I'm in ear shot, and each time I make it known I'm uncomfortable they just laugh and laugh and talk about it louder, or wait until I'm back in the room to resume talking about it.

dude guys do this at every labour job i've ever worked at, except instead of period blood it's, "I permenantly stained the toilet bowl with the rancid shit I got from eating off the food truck," "I'm so cool because I constantly wipe my boogers on the walls of the stalls and the urinals," "I banged/want to bang/am going to rape/will watch through the window and masturbate <some female with an 85% likelihood of being an immediate family member of yours>"

and other such combinations. honestly, get thicker skin, because you're going to come across this shit quite a bit. I'm not condoning that behavior (it's pretty gross no matter who is saying what), but that doesn't mean you should get your period blood stained knickers all in a twist over it.

This has a very Carrie-esque quality to it.

Originally Posted by coqauvin

dude guys do this at every labour job i've ever worked at, except instead of period blood it's, "I permenantly stained the toilet bowl with the rancid shit I got from eating off the food truck," "I'm so cool because I constantly wipe my boogers on the walls of the stalls and the urinals," "I banged/want to bang/am going to rape/will watch through the window and masturbate <some female with an 85% likelihood of being an immediate family member of yours>"

and other such combinations. honestly, get thicker skin, because you're going to come across this shit quite a bit. I'm not condoning that behavior (it's pretty gross no matter who is saying what), but that doesn't mean you should get your period blood stained knickers all in a twist over it.

There's a difference between guys being guys and girls being girls when there is one guy around that doesn't want to deal with it.

I do not work in construction, I work in an office. There's a world of difference between a group of guys that are all friendly farting on each other, and a group of guys cornering a girl and ridiculing her until she has to push and yell to get them away.

When the genders are reversed, it's a little less frightening, but I can't very well push a cavalcade of women out of my way, as I'm typically non-violent, plus, I don't hate anyone here. It's a joke that went too far. Teasing and shit like that is fine, but the level I recieved is supposed to have dissipated after the fifth grade.

Also I can kill you with my brain.

I think you came to the wrong place to find sympathy over a bunch of girls picking on you, even viciously. Toughen up kid, and learn to ignore the big mean ladies. That is a lesson that is supposed to have been learned before the fifth grade.