Thread: how to gently break up with a nice guy

Have you considered making an effort to revitalize your attraction to him, or at least talking with him about it before breaking it off in what you portray as an abrupt manner?

Originally Posted by faesce

Is not being sexually attracted to him the only reason you want to break up with him? If so, have you considered analyzing the reasons you're not sexually attracted to him anymore and potentially working them?

Not being sexually attracted to him anymore is the major issue but it most likely stems from other issues that relate to our personalities. I'm not interested in saving the relationship. If it's not working then it's not working. No point in stretching things out.

Originally Posted by mutton

Have you considered making an effort to revitalize your attraction to him, or at least talking with him about it before breaking it off in what you portray as an abrupt manner?

Things have been cooling down for at least 2 months. There's no way he hasn't noticed and frankly I'd be surprised if he didn't see this coming at all. I don't feel like this is abrupt and I don't know what talking with him about it before breaking it off will accomplish. The issues I'm having with him are mostly ingrained personality traits which are leaving me unsatisfied.