Thread: Dream Last Night...

I disagree. My dreams, for instance, have had relevance to my own feelings and emotions.

In this case, the OP's dream was a fantasy about something that seems to have been close to the surface, something he has been somewhat aware of.

Yeah, certain neurological theories behind dreams have been explained to the public as "clearing the brain's cache" of incompletely processed sensory data or incomplete ideas (so the "clearing the cache" analogy is more apt). Other proposed neurological theories talk about dreams as a way to store memories or learned knowledge, since it's been shown having a good night's sleep after learning something increases retention of that newly learned knowledge. However, none of these theories exclude the possibility that the content of dreams cannot teach us something about our emotional state. Actually, this possibility isn't ruled out, since dreams deal with processing information or with somehow playing out information to be purged.

Granted, I am wary of personifying one's unconsciousness by stating things like "my unconscious mind is telling me something." Also yes, in the past people thought that dreams were somehow messages from the divine or the spirit world or whatever. And finally dream interpretation sounds like something which is for people who consult their newpaper's horoscope or use fortune teller hotlines. But just because soothesayers can't predict the future from a king's dream doesn't mean that the content of dreams has no useful information.


And anyway, to the OP: regardless of why you had this particular intense experience from your dream, it seems to have brought something to the surface which you either were suppressing or were only partly aware. Your awareness of what you need is all that matters, and it sounds like you know that you should start the process of moving on with your life.

Originally Posted by gwahir

the smart thing to do is cut off contact with her. but you probably won't do that. so the next best thing is decide to stop taking this bullshit from your own brain.

get over this girl. she doesn't care about seeing you with other girls -- that's just your stupid fantasy. if she DID care, but she didn't want you, she'd only care because knowing you loved her was a self-esteem boost for her, which is ratshit behaviour anyway.

get over this girl. make the decision. date and fuck other girls until it happens. then keep dating and fucking other girls.

I know that your over-weening arrogance makes it difficult for you to critically interpret text, but actual the OP's dream was telling him that he had to move on and stop pining over this particular girl.

Originally Posted by gwahir

for the record, i don't disagree that our dreams can tell us about our emotional states. what i/we said was that there is no external wisdom to be gained from dreams. it's tempting to think "she had feelings for me in my dream, so my unconscious mind is telling me that she has feelings for me", but that's complete rubbish. THAT is what we were saying.

Precisely, everything you know or discover in a dream is something you've already known.