Thread: Dream Last Night...

Guys can we stop pretending that cutting someone out from your social circle is as easy as "not seeing her anymore" or "defriending her from facebook". It's not going to help him because real life doesn't really work that way.

She's probably someone he sees all the time. Sometimes you're infatuated with people you see all the time and nothing is ever going to happen. Cutting those people out of your lives isn't the healthy way to get over it at all. Moving on is a difficult, painful process that involves focusing on other things and shifting your perceptions. Not just "I can't be with that person so I'll just have to not be their friend forever, even though we share a social circle which, thanks to technology, is all encompassing."

Originally Posted by simonj

Guys can we stop pretending that cutting someone out from your social circle is as easy as "not seeing her anymore" or "defriending her from facebook". It's not going to help him because real life doesn't really work that way.

She's probably someone he sees all the time. Sometimes you're infatuated with people you see all the time and nothing is ever going to happen. Cutting those people out of your lives isn't the healthy way to get over it at all. Moving on is a difficult, painful process that involves focusing on other things and shifting your perceptions. Not just "I can't be with that person so I'll just have to not be their friend forever, even though we share a social circle which, thanks to technology, is all encompassing."

This is a very meaningful reply.

True, cutting someone out of your life twenty years ago was probably a hell of a lot easier. But now everyone is a click away. Even if you can avoid her. Can you avoid her friends? Or other constant reminders (electronic and living) that she exists and is probably not thinking about you all that much? Probably not.

Find other things to fill your time as has been said time and time again. You know what I did? I dabbled in some silly and awesome art projects. I read way more than I used to. I consistently tried to get my friends to come out with me even if was inconvenient. Do SOMETHING, ANYTHING, other than brood.