Thread: Dream Last Night...

Originally Posted by Anonymous

The problem is how to move on, and I was asking whether you guys thought that the dream could be a sign of my subconscious starting to move on?

i guess, if that's a way you like to think of it. i'd say it's more of your mind revealing to you that part of you still holds out hope that she has feelings for you...

i'm sorry to say that moving on isn't exactly something you DO. it's something that happens while you're doing other things. think about other girls, try to distance yourself from her as much as possible, and MOST IMPORTANTLY, stay honest with yourself.

do you find yourself, just a tiny bit, deep down, hoping/thinking that there's a chance she'll return your feelings? i know the answer, it's yes. everyone does with a crush. that doesn't make you bad or stupid. acknowledge it when you feel it, and, just as vitally, respond to it with a firm self-reminder that it's not going to happen. then occupy yourself with something or other. then go out with other girls. a lot.

i keep repeating the same thing because the most important step in getting over someone is making the decision to do so. finally and thoroughly. it's incredibly hard to do, and you can't do it on a whim, but once you've done it, the hardest work is done. then you just have to maintain the decision (see the paragraph above).

Originally Posted by gwahir

i guess, if that's a way you like to think of it. i'd say it's more of your mind revealing to you that part of you still holds out hope that she has feelings for you...

i'm sorry to say that moving on isn't exactly something you DO. it's something that happens while you're doing other things. think about other girls, try to distance yourself from her as much as possible, and MOST IMPORTANTLY, stay honest with yourself.

do you find yourself, just a tiny bit, deep down, hoping/thinking that there's a chance she'll return your feelings? i know the answer, it's yes. everyone does with a crush. that doesn't make you bad or stupid. acknowledge it when you feel it, and, just as vitally, respond to it with a firm self-reminder that it's not going to happen. then occupy yourself with something or other. then go out with other girls. a lot.

i keep repeating the same thing because the most important step in getting over someone is making the decision to do so. finally and thoroughly. it's incredibly hard to do, and you can't do it on a whim, but once you've done it, the hardest work is done. then you just have to maintain the decision (see the paragraph above).

well yes, of course, part of me still hopes that.
I know that it isn't going to happen though, and that she does not feel that way.

I guess I just keep on doing what I'm doing then.