I realized a couple years ago I'm bi (I'm male if you couldn't figure by the title). I've heard of "gaydar" of course but I guess I don't have it because I just found out after 4 months that one certain guy at my work is gay. He's with someone and I'm not attracted to him like that anyhow but how do you know if other guys are gay or bi unless you know they've dated guys before or meet them somewhere that's specific to being gay like a pride rally or gay bar? And even that's not for sure because straight allies go to that stuff too.

I just don't want to get my ass kicked if I hit on a guy or ask him out and he's not gay and worse, homophobic. I mean I could take if I just called it wrong and asked out a straight guy who was cool about just saying no, that he's not gay, but I don't want to put my safety at risk, but I don't want to just wait to be asked out all the time either.

I know there are a few bi or gay guys on here besides me so how do you tell or how do you find out?