Thread: Bisexual and don't know how to ask guys out

Originally Posted by Crysack

Otherwise, just strike up a conversation with a guy you're interested in and ask? I can't see too many people being THAT homophobic these days.

This. 99% of guys you approach will just give you a wtf look and/or inform you that they're not homosexual if that's the case. Or at least this is the case in Alabama, so surely wherever you're at is no more homophobic than we are.

Also, try to be a little bit less straightforward about what you're going for than you would be with women if you're uncomfortable with it. Keep the conversation going and you can usually gauge interest based on that.

Originally Posted by Crysack

I'm sure sycld can help you out here.

Obviously, I'm not a great source on dating advice.

But seriously, maybe look things like volunteer organizations or the like with gay/bi guys, social groups, or... yes, I'm really going to suggest this... internet dating.

I'm bi. I wonder if that really matters to gay men, because I know some of the friends I already have that are gay or lesbian think bi people just can't make up their minds or are trying to be trendy.

To be honest, it unfortunately does matter to many people. They'll be scared you'll leave them for someone of the opposite gender.

Originally Posted by Absolution

What factor does gender play when someone leaves another for somebody else? It isn't like being bi increases one's chances of finding a partner (be it male or female).

I know, but still that's an irrational fear that both gay males and straight females have towards bi males. I think it's worse among straight females in some part due to homosexuality's social stigma.