You seem like the type of person that, if you weren't strapped in, would get off the roller coaster at the peak of the first hill. So what you need is some kind of strap to insure that you stay the course.

Drink a teeny bit first. But not to the point of drunk, or even tipsy. Enough to loosen your inhibitions. If she's cool with that, offer her some. If not, do it before, and chew some gum. But it'll get you where you need to be.

But I repeat - DO NOT GET HAMMERED. You want to get what my friend calls, 'conversational'. He's a clam, despite being a very talented actor and singer. But he has a beer, and he loosens up. Talks to people he wouldn't before.

And don't read The Game, because confidence doesn't seem to be your problem. Fear does.

But, you know, the roller coaster will go on even if you're not seated. Stall too long and she'll lose interest.