The issue doesn't seem like it's that you don't trust jorge, but rather that you don't trust HER. So what if jorge wants to sleep with her and if he doesn't respect you? If she loves you and respects you, she won't sleep with jorge. And just because she got jumped once before (which is terrible and scary, don't get me wrong) doesn't mean it will happen every time she's alone around men. Men want to sleep with and date women. I'm sure jorge isn't the only one. I'm attracted to a couple of my friends girlfriends...does that mean I'm a potential rapist and a disrespectful ass too? You can't rush in and "protect" every time a guy expresses interest in your girlfriend. She's appealing - that's why YOU'RE with her after all, right?
You were a jerk, although you probably honestly didn't mean to be. You thought you really were protecting her, but did you ever stop to think maybe she already has a father and wants a boyfriend instead? You put her in a bad position - she wanted to go out, but if she went, that would leave you "disapproving", or she could go have fun and a life and lie to you which would also upset you. You put her in a lose/lose situation, which isn't helping her, supporting her, or protecting her in any way. She lied because she felt like she had no other options. She did, like telling you that your insecurities were clouding your judgement and she had every right to go out, even if a guy who is interested in her was going to be there, but I see it from her side too.
If you want to stay with her, give her the freedom to live her own life and the lying will probably stop.
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Originally Posted by Cryptic
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