Thread: When she doesn't want sex..

The absolute best thing you can do is stop creating any pressure or expectation of sex.

And yes this means you have to accept that you may not be going to have sex, but as long as you are giving her the kind of pressure you are, she is going to feel like you desperate for it - which means she pretty much just can't get turned on or aroused (that's just the way a woman's sex drive works).

Doesn't mean don't be affectionate or do things that can turn her on, but try stuff like don't kiss her or be affectionate at all for an unusually long length of time, an give her a kiss her on the neck just out of the blue, then immediately get up to make a cup of coffee (or whatever). In other words, show her that you don't expect anything in return - take the pressure away.

Given your track record, it may take a few efforts before she really accepts that there is no real pressure, but actually BE cool with not having sex and the demonstrate it - the chance she get in the mood will turn from the virtual zero it is right now to almost certain.