Originally Posted by
Space Cowboy
She sounds like she's abusive, irrational, and very insecure about herself. Abusive people know how to push the other person's buttons to get the response they desire. Sounds to me like she grew up in a house where irrationality ruled, and until she gets the help she needs for herself, she won't change. You cannot force her to change no matter how hard you try. In fact, nobody can force her to get help except her. And I guarantee it will be later down the road when she'll change, and not anytime soon. Or, if the habits are ingrained in her personality enough, she won't change ever.
Getting to your question: based on what you have written, it sounds like you already know what to do. Break it off and don't look back. It would be healthier for you and her to do this. It sounds like you're taking a large amount of abuse from this woman, and that's not healthy for even the strongest of people. I know you love her and care about her, but this is what you both need.
Set your IM client to private (where only people on your list can IM you), delete her texts as soon as they come in, and don't answer calls from her. Total no contact. Period. If you ever feel like you have to get in contact with her, get up immediately and do something else. Clean your kitchen, play a video game, anything else. Just get away from the computer / phone until the urge subsides.
I also recommend reading up on how to recover from emotional abuse. Please be well.
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