Thread: Embarassing sex problem

Originally Posted by Anonymous

OP

Yeah she can't take the pill or anything else hormonal because she's taking another med it won't work with so I always have to wrap it up.

I just can't think of a way to do this. I talked to her tonight and the whole time I was like "you need to tell her" and I just couldn't do it. It was really awkward too since she was talking about stuff she wants to try and the only way I felt was grossed out. I mean the only thing I can think of is just to come out with it and be like "yeah the last time we had sex on Saturday, I noticed you have some discharge that isn't normal and a smell, I don't think we should do anything until you get it checked out." And maybe offer to go with her so it doesn't look like I'm an ass that's disgusted with her body? How does that sound?

Do it, but be sure to be gentle in the delivery.
And honest.

I'm wondering why you didn't mention it to her when there was a unique yellow discharge last time you had sex?

These things happen, just be supportive, and honest with her.

OP.

Well, I ended up telling her last night. She was trying to start stuff, and I didn't let it get started, instead I told her that I thought her infection hadn't gone away, and we probably shouldn't have sex or do anything like that until she got checked out, because it probably wasn't a good idea to irritate things any further.

I said almost exactly this when it was clear that she wanted her kissing me to go somewhere: "Hey...uh...stop for a second, OK? Last weekend when we were together, and I probably should have said something then, when I went to take the condom off I saw you had some discharge that isn't the way it normally is and it smelled a little off. I'm thinking maybe that yeast infection you had didn't go away so it's probably not a good idea to do anything sexual until you get it rechecked. If you want I can go with you, I don't have class on Tuesdays and Thursday I'm done at 11 so if you want me to do that, shoot for one of those times."

Did I do something wrong? Because she completely flipped out. I honestly think she's being ridiculously immature about the whole thing, and totally in denial because she HAS to notice something isn't right. And I think I was as supportive, non-judgemental, and tactful as I could be telling her. I didn't accuse her of cheating or having an STD, I didn't imply that her body in any way disgusts me, I didn't just bust out with "your pussy fucking REEKS", I mean I wouldn't have said anything different than I would say if she had a cough that wouldn't go away and I figured it might be time for a doctor visit.

Man, women really suck sometimes...

OP

She just went off on me about how I've seen too many Summer's Eve commercials, and all women have a scent etc etc and I need to pull my head out of my ass and realize that it's not good for girls to douche and they're not supposed to smell like a boquet of flowers.

Well yeah I knew that, but I don't think they're supposed to smell like my basement when I've left a bucket of minnows down there and forgot about it either!

I tried to calm her down and tell her that this problem is RECENT, in no way do I think she smells bad when things are healthy (I don't, that's the total truth, I actually like her scent normally) and it's no big deal at all to go to the doctor to get checked out for an infection millions of women get all the time. If I'm not mistaken it's bad to let female infections go because they can turn into pelvic infections and I'd hate to see that happen just because she wouldn't go in for a quick check and some simple meds.

Whatever. If she wants to be like this about it, maybe whoever gets her next doesn't have a nose and doesn't care if she's healthy or not.