I can understand where you're coming from, faesce, but those issues are nothing compared to the AIDS epidemic in Africa or the starvation in Ethiopia. We can sit and talk about how small certain problems are in comparison to other problems, but it does nothing except belittle someone's issues and isn't particularly helpful. But don't take that as an attack on you, I'm just trying to provide you with some perspective.

The OP may have screwed up by letting her issues get this far without being handled, but there isn't anything she can do about that at this point. The advice given ITT has basically been to talk about it with her roommates, and I agree. I would say that if she cannot tolerate a cat or she feels that getting a lock for her bedroom door are things she's completely unwilling/unable to do, she needs to find another place to live.