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    So as a freshman in college, I've been making plenty of new friends. In particular, there's this one girl that I've been hanging out with for a while. We go to all the athletic events together (which is part of a student rewards system, but we go just as the two of us) and often go to parties together as well (in larger groups). On top of that, I've made other trips with her, like to the Sprint store to pick up a new phone and to the State Fair this past weekend. She lives in my dorm on the same floor as me, but she usually stays tucked away in her room. Anyway, I could go on about how we hang out, but I think I've laid out the gist of it.

    If it's not obvious now, I'll explicitly say that I'm really interested in this girl. The problem is that she has a boyfriend, and I know that I have a problem with getting emotionally attached to girls that I will never have a chance with because they have boyfriends. Granted, he doesn't go to the same school as we do and she doesn't mention him very often (only once in sober conversation and twice when she was a little tipsy at a party). I've talked over my situation with different people (both guys and girls, her friends and mine) and I've gotten two different responses, either "Dude, you guys look great together. I can see the chemistry between you two. Plus, long distance relationships don't last very long. Just be patient, you'll get your shot" or "You don't have a chance. Find a new girl before you get your heart broken".

    So, which side should I listen to?

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    Well considering you've already wasted the better part of a semester waiting around for her, I'd say you might as well continue pining over her, even though you clearly have no shot. Maybe you'll learn a lesson.

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    It's such a piss-poor choice to wait around for people. Because if things don't go in your favor, which they usually don't, you're back to square one feeling even more sorry for yourself. Concentrate on your own shit. She's not the last girl on earth. You just started college. There's plenty of other people out there, especially girls that don't have boyfriends.
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    Quote Originally Posted by gina View Post
    It's such a piss-poor choice to wait around for people. Because if things don't go in your favor, which they usually don't, you're back to square one feeling even more sorry for yourself. Concentrate on your own shit. She's not the last girl on earth. You just started college. There's plenty of other people out there, especially girls that don't have boyfriends.
    Quoted for truth. Your only options are to wait or simply go for it. If you address the situation at least you'll know where you stand. If you wait not only will it be torture but you may never find out how she feels.

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    Don't get a girlfriend yet, fuck around and have some fun. I started dating a girl a week after getting to college, and while I'm glad I have her now I still wish I had time to go hook up with random girls.

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    Rule of thumb: if girl has boyfriend, abort.

    Of course, like all other rules, this one can be ignored in the most extreme of circumstances, but it's a pretty good rule to live by.

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    rule of thumb #2

    if a bitch has a boyfriend, smash that pussy and then have a beer with her boyfriend and talk about "some dumb bitch" you just fucked

    (true story fyi)

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    Okay, here is all the advice you need because from this thread I gather that you either aren't that cool, don't get much attention from girls, or have absolutely no rapport with women. Either way, this will clue you in:

    She will like you more to see you with other girls because, hey guess what, she isn't leaving her boyfriend for you in this state because if she wanted to, she would've by now.

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    True love always finds a way bro, don't give up and always believe in yourself.

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    Lol.

    Man, give it up. Go find some unattached pussy to wrap around your young, throbbing, turbid...

    Um, yeah. Go find another girl; you're only 18 once, only in college once, and only a freshman once, and don't waste your time worrying about claimed goods.


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    Quote Originally Posted by sycld View Post
    only a freshman once, and don't waste your time worrying about claimed goods.
    I went to highschool with a dude who was 20 his sophomore year.... I think he beat that whole "Only freshman once" deal
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    Start dating a few different girls over the next couple of weeks and see what her reaction is.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MMacone View Post
    Start dating a few different girls over the next couple of weeks and see what her reaction is.
    That's clearly not an option for this guy or he wouldn't be sycophantically attached to a girl with a boyfriend.

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    Here's how making a move will play out, with almost certainty:

    If she likes you, expect a few weeks of her being undecided over you or her boyfriend. This will be emotional hell for you, as you do not know the outcome. But I do. She's not going to leave him. You know why? Because she knows him. She's safe with him, and unless he's fucking her over or knocking her around - and face it, even if he was, the odds of her leaving him are slim - she's not going to leave him. Meaning, she's left you hanging out to dry while she 'mulls over this decision'. Every night, you'll go to bed thinking about how tomorrow, you'll get your answer and it'll be nothing but sunshine and puppydogs licking your balls until you're blue in the face, but it's not going to happen.

    Nut up and move on.

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    Here's how it'll really play out:

    You won't take any advice that isn't reaffirming what you've already decided, passing our advice off as, "Bad advice, we don't really know her, etc, etc," and you'll keep justifying it. It's okay. We've all been there. None of us were born without hope or with emotional scars. Earn them yourself.

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    my emotional scars sprung fully formed from my head

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    Is her boyfriend Jason Segel?

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    Atsmosfear is Dr. Phill if Dr. Phill had balls and barely contained contempt for every mouth breather.
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    malreynold not all of us have been there

    some of us don't suck

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    I am like Dr Phi. If Dr Phil was awesome and got laid once in a while

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    Quote Originally Posted by simonj View Post
    Is her boyfriend Jason Segel?
    I'm annoyed (but unsurprised) no one got this reference.

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    Quote Originally Posted by simonj View Post
    I'm annoyed (but unsurprised) no one got this reference.
    i didn't get the reference but i wish my boyfriend was jason segel
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    Watch the series 'Undeclared'. The main character has exactly the same problem as this poor poster. Only his friends almost certainly aren't as cool/funny. Plus, the girl in this case probably won't leave Jason Segel for this douchebag. And Adam Sandler won't want to party in his dorm.

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    i own that on dvd and i haven't watched it in years! and i'm watching the inbetweeners as we speak.
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    Shit, I do now, but it took a while to get here.

    Not perfect, but manageable.

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    Quote Originally Posted by gwahir View Post
    Rule of thumb: if girl has boyfriend, abort.

    Of course, like all other rules, this one can be ignored in the most extreme of circumstances, but it's a pretty good rule to live by.
    This is hardly true.

    I've taken two girls from their boyfriends.

    Got a few good months out of the first one, and a couple very nice years out of the second one.


    Sure, you're not going to have the world's greatest love, but you're going to have a good time for a while.

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    While you MAY have "taken two girls from their boyfriends," I hear the man code is to not screw around with another man's girlfriend. There's plenty of ladies out there without boyfriends.
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    Quote Originally Posted by gina View Post
    While you MAY have "taken two girls from their boyfriends," I hear the man code is to not screw around with another man's girlfriend. There's plenty of ladies out there without boyfriends.
    the good ones are generally taken. stealing is a heelish option, if you can pull it off, but i mean you're opening yourself up to the same thing happening to you and you can't bitch about it if it does.

    so yeah, generally better to go for unattached ladies

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    Quote Originally Posted by coqauvin View Post
    stealing is a heelish option,
    heelish more like toolish
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    Quote Originally Posted by coqauvin View Post
    the good ones are generally taken. stealing is a heelish option, if you can pull it off, but i mean you're opening yourself up to the same thing happening to you and you can't bitch about it if it does.

    so yeah, generally better to go for unattached ladies
    This is very true.

    The one that I had for two years got drunk and boned a fat guy behind my back.


    Cest la vie, or whatever.


    Just know what you want out of it, and don't fool yourself.





    Also, Gina, the bro code doesn't really apply if you're not bros with the dude in question, now does it?


    And now adays, nobody really gets into any altercation over a girl lost.

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    having sex with the notorious b i g is a felony

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    You may have a chance, but your wasting a big opportunity right now. Sounds like your day mostly revolves around this girl, which sucks as a college student. Make as many connections as you can, as many friends as you can and expand your network. This girl is not the end all be all. If you do get a relationship with her (big IF), and it falls apart eventually (It will, undoubtedly) you are sort of in a shit position since you will loose a lot of friends. In college, everyone sides with the girl when the relationship gets derailed. Fact of Life.

    Go out and have some fun. Fuck a different girl every weekend night now to make up for the time you've wasted.

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    what stupid advice... he clearly has no shot of "fucking a different girl every weekend" if he's pulling this shit for a girl with a boyfriend.

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    bzzzzzzt wrong atmosfear

    any guy under the sun has "a shot" at fucking a different girl every weekend

    assuming they decide to utilize their ability to stop sucking

    although lets be honest

    most people don't realize that is an option

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    some people are happy wallowing in their own self-loathing i really don't understand how this works

    but goddamn it's a pain trying to pull them out of that more often than not i just abandon them

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    fucking fat chicks is always an option if you really can't put your A-game on
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    Quote Originally Posted by Atmosfear View Post
    what stupid advice... he clearly has no shot of "fucking a different girl every weekend" if he's pulling this shit for a girl with a boyfriend.
    We know he's not, but he should be- he's in college.

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    There's no clear way to tell, man. There are girls at my uni that have bfs at home and will sleep with other boys, but at the same time there are girls that will be with their man for the rest of their lives.

    If you think she's classy, you respect her, she's beautiful to you then she's probably staying with her bf
    if she's trashy, flirty, hot, then she'll fuck you. but she's probably not what you want anyways.

    From what I've seen anyways.
    But seriously you should just go for someone else. No sense wasting your time on one girl when there are plenty of others just like her and better.

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    do you think you have a chance?

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    you have a chance with me college boy
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