I'm a 20 year old male and for as long as I can remember, I have always felt dirty & disgusting after masturbatin or sex. I'm immediately turned off and can't stand the thought of anything sex related. Is this normal in a psychological sense?
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I'm a 20 year old male and for as long as I can remember, I have always felt dirty & disgusting after masturbatin or sex. I'm immediately turned off and can't stand the thought of anything sex related. Is this normal in a psychological sense?
Probably because come the end you've sobered up and realised you just shagged a horse
Flaming in Personal Support. I think that's against the rules.
well we're not the ones fucking horses left and right
also this feeling you're experiencing is probably just a psychologically altered version of the "crash" almost every man in the entire world feels after ejaculating
it is normal unless you stop having sex because of it
well, sperm is kind of disgusting and sticky. it's just psychological. try taking a shower after you are done with whatever you are doing and see how much you feel better.
As faesce said, it's more or less related to the crash that we all feel after ejaculation, though this is a little more extreme than many guys feel I think.
I'm just curious though: have you to any degree internalized messages about how ejaculation is bad from any religious source?
La petite mort
perfectly normal i get the same sort of feeling like everyone says its purely psychological
Yeah I read an article recently in a science mag about it.
It's perfectly normal. Just be cautious about communicating about this to any partners you may have; they will almost certainly try to interpret anything you say about it to mean that you find them disgusting in some way. This is true no matter how you try to explain it.
what faecse said
i get it occasionally, but it goes away very quickly.
and its only after cumming i get this. i have thought about it before hand, but nothing. then after its a brief ew what did i just do.
then back to normal
it must be a subconscious reaction of somekind.
i think in that sense its quite funny.
he means, have you had religious education. even non-religious people carry remnants of religious teachings, usually without really knowing it. all sex-based shame stuff is likely attributable to religious teachings, i'm quite sorry to say.
basically, the question boils down to: has there been anything in your past, any education or teaching that has said to you "masturbation and sex are wrong/shameful/disgusting"?
I have never had this feeling after I spurt. Then again, I'm usually more concerned about putting the body back in the casket and re-burying it.
All in all, if you're that worried about it then get psychiatric help. Preferably not a freudian psychiatrist. You don't want to pay money to be told this feeling is related to latent feelings towards wanting to bone your mother (even though it probably completely is).
dopamine yo
It's normal I believe. I get the same feeling, no desire to watch porn anymore, that's why I wait to cum till the end so I don't have to waste all the good stuff. It just gets boring and you lose the drive right?
As a man, I can honestly say I have no idea what you are talking about. Psychological about your cum? Leads me to think you are just not comfortable with yourself for whatever reason. Solve that first and see if it goes away.