Ex randomly added a girl I'm seeing.

So my ex broke up with me and moved in with her new boyfriend like less than a month after which fucked me up for a while, but now I'm getting over it and started hanging out with other girls. Her(my ex) and I are on pretty okay terms as far as I know. We still have short chats on facebook every once in a while. Anyway, I've been having an amazing month just doing what I want, focusing on the pros of being single. I look and feel better than I have in a while.

Now here's where the strange comes in for me. I posted some new pics of me looking good and the first person to like them was my ex. She'd never liked any of my other shit before. Further more, a girl I've been getting to know posted some pictures. I liked the pictures so I guess it showed up on my wall(my ex is still on my friends) and then all of a sudden I notice that my ex is 'friends' with my new girl. I know for a god damn fact they don't know each other, so why the hell would she add her?

I mean is it just... jealousy? What does it mean?

Sounds like shes keeping tabs on you.

Should I be upset? I mean I didn't go adding her new boyfriend to my friends list to keep tabs on her. What does it mean exactly? ><

Well we can't tell you if you need to be upset. Yeah I think you have a valid reason to be upset, but if this doesn't bother you, then so be it.

But since you made this thread I'm guessing it's bothering you at least a little bit. If it bothers you a lot you might consider removing her as a friend on facebook. If you think de-friending her would cause too much drama, change your privacy settings to limit what she can see (such as likes). Some of the privacy settings are really subtle and she shouldn't notice unless she's studying your page.

systematically add each and every one of her friends

Looks like she is regretting her decision and wants to get back with you! Perhaps keep a spot open for her to come back into the nest. Maybe keep a pillow on your bed just for her and let no one else use it! She'll be happy when she comes back to you.

OP here. I'll try and keep it short. Basically after everything I said in previous posts and after having a nice conversation with my ex(about 2 days earlier) I got a random message from her bf(I've never met or talked to him before) insulting me and saying I need to stop talking crap about her(my ex). I got angry and replied angrily because he wanted to fight and I wasn't in a very good mood. After that I talked to my ex(via facebook) and asked what the hell was going on. She told me that her dad said I was apparently calling her a skank to people I work with(her dad also works with me). This wasn't true and I have no idea where this came from since I was trying to stay on good terms. Anyway she had no interest in listening to anything I had to say, said she was done with me and to grow up. I was already angry from her bf's message and ended up calling her dad a moron, telling her she needs to look in the mirror and grow up, and agreeing that we were done.

This came out of no where. At first I thought her bf was maybe just starting crap, but after talking to my ex I realized that she was pissed at me for no reason as well. What the hell?

Anyway, now it's been almost 3 weeks since I've last talked to her. I found out that she still had the girl I was hanging out with added and had messaged her a bit after the whole ordeal asking if she was dating me. The girl had said no because we're not exactly dating and then asked me who she(my ex) was before deleting her as a friend.

My mind is torn. I'm not sure what the hell happened, why she cares who I'm seeing, and whether or not to try and message her again.

I tried to keep it as short as possible, but I can go into further detail if needed for advice on how to go about this... Thanks.

a) forget about it, it's rarely worth keeping contact with an ex, especially in the situation you're in.

b) stop conducting all your affairs through facebook.

Delete your facebook.

EX GIRLFRIENDS ALWAYS ADD EVERY PERSON INVOLVED WITH YOU.

GET OVER IT. FACT OF LIFE.

WE KNOW YOU SECRETLY ADD ALL OF HER INTERESTS.

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Originally Posted by Nermy2k

Delete your facebook.

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Exactly what I was going to say. That's what I did, and it's one of the best things I ever did for so many reasons.