How to get good with girls?

There was a girl I was texting and she asked me if I wanted to meet up (by text). I said yeah, if you want to. She didn't reply. It's been three days. Is there a way I can get her to meet up/ text/ or should I give up? We used to work the same job but she quit. :confused: Sometimes I never know what to say when I meet a girl that I'm interested. I'm worried I'll say the wrong thing but if I say nothing the girl might ignore me too and find something/someone else to do/hang out with. It's seems I'm really bad with girls no matter how much practice I get and how many different girls I meet. It's like I meet a girl I don't know what to say/do I describe my situation, than I meet another girl, different situation write a different thread, over and over.

"Yeah, if you want to" comes across as indifferent. If someone asks if you want to meet up, you should give a specific date/time/location and then it's up to them to confirm or if they are busy that day the ball is in their court to offer a specific alternative. It's been a few days, text her back and ask her if she wants to go see the 3PM showing of The Martian this Saturday or meet tomorrow at 7PM at Starbucks or whatever.

Thanks. Interesting. I'd like to try your idea and see what happens. I just didn't want to seem too desperate/ interested because I was worried the girl might lose more interest in me. So I guess thats why I was trying to not make it seem like I'm too eager to go out. But I think she's already lost a lot of interest.

Update. Today my phone stopped working, the phone place said it's probably bad condition/old phone/ water damage/ been charged too long- charging over night. I text the girl on my new phone but she never answered. I'm pretty sure it's her number.

go up to a girl and ask her if she wants a one way ticket to scissor town, she'll know what it means ;)

Unfortunately for me the girl stopped texting me and it is her number.

Nermy2k, I don't know I mean it seems kind of forward, I don't know if I could pull it off succesfully, but thanks though. Also something like that would work better if the girl already likes you, I think.

well it worked on me tonight

it must be frustrating being a lesbian

if a (suitably attractive) girl wanted to have sex with a guy she would basically have to let him know and boom shit is sorted

but somehow I feel like that wouldn't work on other girls

I guess what I am saying is show her your tits and let us know how that goes, ok?

Step 1. Be forward and honest.
Step 2. Be fucking forward.
Step 3. Be you.
Step 4. ???
Step 5. Scissor

It's been half a decade and you're still making this shit way too complicated.

As far as talking to girls goes, just ask them questions about themselves. Where do they work, what do they do there, etc, etc. You can usually find something to talk about for a while out of that. Just get good at small talk.

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"Yeah, if you want to" comes across as indifferent. If someone asks if you want to meet up, you should give a specific date/time/location and then it's up to them to confirm or if they are busy that day the ball is in their court to offer a specific alternative. It's been a few days, text her back and ask her if she wants to go see the 3PM showing of The Martian this Saturday or meet tomorrow at 7PM at Starbucks or whatever.

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Guys what we have here is an ad for The Martian and Starbucks

Does he even know he's an ad?

She sent me a text today asking when I am free. So I think she was ignoring my texts for a really time and for some reason answered it. I don't think she might be interested since a lot of my texts she ignores or takes a really long time to reply.

meet up with her and ask her if she wants a one way ticket to scissor town, she'll know what it means ;)

We met, she talked mostly about how she misses and loves her boyfriend, I think maybe she just wants to be friends. She said that she already had plans and didn't want to hang out long. She said she'd let me know when she isn't busy. It is possible that I don't stand a chance.

You've been friend zoned. Welcome to the world of "dating".

Yes. But I mean I'd rather be her friend than not her friend since I can still talk with her and get her attention. But yeah I don't think it would be a good idea to make a move/admit I like her because it might embarass me/ or make things really awkward for me/ or be shut down. Plus I don't really know her stance on lesbians/bi girls and there is a lot it seems to lose and not much to gain. I mean it might be weird for her to have her friend and boyfriend both crushing on her. How should I handle this situation?

Ive became friends with a girl who friend zoned me a while back. It turned into a very fulfilling friendship, and I consider her one of my best friends now.

Ive also become friend with another girl who I liked and got friend zoned and we don't talk anymore. I ended up telling her how I felt and honestly, it was tough being just friends. So its really up to you. I also told the first girl how I felt about her, and it didn't really change anything. So theres really no definite answer.

And if you don't know if shes lesbian/bi, well, shes probably not.

Good point. There isn't really much for me to go on to believe that she is lesbian/ bi vs straight. Yeah sometimes its like it's sad because you can only be a friend but sometimes it's like I miss her attention/wonder what she is doing. But I mean I don't know if she likes lesbians and bi girls and well I am worried if I told her I liked her she might not want to be friends with me. I think maybe she might suspect that I like her since I don't have a boyfriend and I like to hang out with her.

I usually just ask her if she wants a one way ticket to scissor town

I can't even remember if Satori has a penis or a vagina.

yes?

satorti have you licked any vaginas yet

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satorti have you licked any vaginas yet

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+rep for asking the questions we all want to know

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no, I haven't been trying as hard lately, have been doing other stuff such as skateboarding, soccer, basketball, football mostly by myself and reading sports books. Focusing on hobbies like sports helps me not think about girls as much.

Also, trying to figure out how to make beats, I wrote down some lyrics but I don't have beats to go with them, so I feel stuck and am not sure what I should do.

So trying to get better at sports, and trying to do beat making kept me from being as girl focused as I was in the past.

uh you're definitely choosing the wrong sports if you want to lick vaginas. you need to play softball, golf, or roller derby.

Some of the girls look and sound kind of masculine so I wouldn't be surprised if they were lesbians, but almost any sport including the ones you listed could contain lesbians as lesbians are into sports and competiveness, in my opinion.

Don't forget league bowling

Mini golf, bowling and rollerskating reminds me of first date suggestions. And pool. But actually making any team/ playing any sport regularly as a hobby
might seem slightly more desirable than sitting around at home not doing much.

Satori after all this time are you still a virgin

I know its been like ten years and my life is so similar, same type job, slightly more hours. Do you think girls think I am desperate/ have bad social skills?

Have you tried dating websites?

Almost everyone wanted a picture before agreeing to meetup. After giving a picture most people didn't want to meet up. The one person who did agree to meet up, we met at the mall. I texted for a second meetup. The person texted they were busy and ignored the rest of my texts. So I'd say it wasn't very successful for me. I wanted to make my own dating website, but haven't made one yet mostly because I wasn't sure how to make a decent one.

satori you should send me your photo, i can give you some honest feedback to help you out so you can put your best foot forward for a great first impression

Maybe I am not that desirable, otherwise girls would be trying to get me instead of trying to find a dating partner who wasn't me.

Well Satori, what sort of things are you doing to progress yourself to become more desirable?

Satori, have you tried Grindr? I heard there were some hot chicks on that dating app.

From what I heard Grindr is for gay men not gay women.

To be more desirable I want to become an athlete and/or a rapper. Unfortunately I might not have the skill yet or maybe even ever to make money this way so I will have to keep my regular job and practice in my spare time. Do you have any tips on how I should become an athlete/rapper?

As for the athlete part, you probably need to turn back the clock about 10 years or so and do nothing but sports in High School. I don't know how old you are, but I know you've been around both this forum and LWS, so you're likely at least in your mid-to-late 20's. The ship has probably sailed for any sort of professional athletics other than golf.

You're jumping way ahead. You won't be an athlete but you can be athletic, go work out and get in shape fit people are more attractive and desirable. As for being a rapper well I just recommend writing some raps and testing them out, chances are though you suck

Do you think I could become an amateur fighter? I've done some muay thai and boxing classes, a bit mma. I might still need some more practice like at least two years minimum at least if not more.

As for rap, well yeah I do want to still improve, and get more practice, it would be beneficial.

And yeah it's easier to get more athletic/get more fit/ join an amateur team than going pro. I wouldn't look so weak looking.

So yeah, this might take awhile.

I don't see why you couldn't I imagine thats a niche hobby to get into.