Getting on base... with a woman.

Hello.

I have been talking to this girl that goes to my school. I think I likes her. I am a virgin /sadface. She on the other hand had sex with 2 other guys.

I am just wondering that if we start to go out will things still go slow? Like will Il still have to go around the bases before we have sex? I'm just curious that when you go out with a girl who already had sex is it still kinda a big deal if she blows me?

Will we still have all the fun times of hand jobs and feeling up? Or will none of that stuff matter and we just go straight to sex?

I hope you guys get what I'm asking. :pphug:

Erm, I hope this is a serious question so I'll give it a serious response.

It varies from girl to girl, sexual history notwithstanding. If things go well then some will give up the pussay straight away and they'll feel completely normal in doing so. Others will feel dirty/cheap/easy doing so or they just won't feel right or they just won't want to.

People have different sex drives so who knows. All in all the relationship is generally more rewarding than any sexual gratification you may derive.

Yeah this is a serious question. I'm just curious and I'm not just looking for some poon. I actually like this chick and am looking for a serious relationship.

Right well then just go for it. Any sexual factors should be superfluous.

Well, when i lost my virginity it kind of happened crazy fast. I actually went down on a girl before my first kiss. If you and this girl physically mesh it is just gonna happen. You can fight it. Its not THAT hard to fight it. Actually, having to fight it is a good sign that the relationship is going somewhere positive. I'll tell you what my first told me. Its kind of stuck ever since. "This'll be fun. Don't be nervous " Thats really just it. Live life, don't be nervous, and just BREATH.

Well there's usually a progression of physical intimacy as time goes on, it's up to you two how fast the both of you take it. Just because the girl you like is more experienced than you doesn't mean she will have sex with you on the first date; and if you want a relationship out of this, it's best to not rush anything and just let things happen naturally.

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Originally Posted by Absolution

Well there's usually a progression of physical intimacy as time goes on, it's up to you two how fast the both of you take it. Just because the girl you like is more experienced than you doesn't mean she will have sex with you on the first date; and if you want a relationship out of this, it's best to not rush anything and just let things happen naturally.

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It all depends on the person, don't try and stick to a plan just let things happen but be prepared at the same time if this makes sense. With my ex of 1 1/2 years it happened in a week and happened to be the first time we were alone and this was her first time her bf before me she was with for 1 1/2 years and she wouldn't let him even touch her down there because it's all he wanted whereas I didn't speak about it at all. So I reckon you should just let things happen you want it to be serious then you'll have time, you know how you feel about it but not her so if you know it wont mess anything up then ask her how she feels about it, doing the opposite of what she wants even if it's what you want could end things pretty quickly so it's best to make sure first.

Hope it goes well.

Thanks for all the advice it really opened my mind.

If you really want a serious relationship, don't worry about getting on base. If it's a relationship that's supposed to work, that stuff will introduce itself by itself.

Pretty much what the other said. Making sexual things the first consideration or concern in a relationship really isn't a mature outlook. I understand if you're inexperienced you don't really know how things work but there is no rule to go by anyway.

You probably wouldn't like her if you didn't think she was hot so of course sex is on your mind but don't sweat it or you'll wreck the relationship, which is what you say you want anyway.

Yea, try and take it slow yourself. In good relationships you can be honest and open about how you feel. Explain your virginity and that you want to take things slow. I'm sure she'll uinderstand. all the best.

Usually things just go naturally...too much thinking usually leads to bad choices. Just, basically, watch her body language and you can pretty much go from there.

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