wtf is wrong with me (loooooong)

Ok, a little background story-

I have never been in a long term relationship. My longest one was 2 weeks. People call me a womanizer, slut, boytoy, etc which I have no problem with. I've been with at least 50 women in my life, 30 of which were within the months of June and August this past summer. All of this is from age 15 to me being now 18.

So I like sex. A lot. But here's where I need some advice. I got into a "rut" I guess you could say in college when it came to picking up chicks (huh?). Over the summer I would just go surfing and pick up chicks at the beach every couple of days and it was really easy. But since I've been at college I've only hooked up with one chick and she really, really sucked at sex. Like, sucked so bad that I couldn't stay hard.

About at week and a half ago this girl from my old high school sent me a random text message. I haven't talked to her since school got out in June. She was cute in high school and had a crush on me, but she was too immature for me to like her back. Well we talked for a while and we started to like each other.

I went and hung out with her one night at her house (she was home alone) and we made out a lot and were grinding on each other a lot, but we stayed in our clothes. I was fine with that, she's only 16 after all. Then I took her on a date 2 days later; we went to the movies and then went to dinner at this really nice restaurant with a nice view of our inlet that had a boardwalk for us to walk on after dinner. That went really well and she told me that she liked me a lot.

So we're not a couple yet or anything. So last night I was back at my college (I had to play for graduation today) and one of my friends wanted me to DD for him at a party. I was fine with that, I wasn't doing anything. So at the party there are only like 10 people and I am way underdressed. I just went with it though, I didn't really care.

So after a while I start talking to some people (everyone was just playing circle of death) and one girl needed a ride to her car. This chick was 22 and smoking hot and a "lesbian," meaning that she dates chicks but still fucks guys every now and then just to get it out of her system. So since I was the only one not drinking I told her I'd give her a ride to her car. This other girl who I've seen around campus and is also smoking hot offered to come along to give directions since I'm not from the town my college is in.

We were driving the chick to her car and she was talking about how she was tired of women and needed a good fuck to get her mind right (as in, wanted my dick. My dick came up in conversation before we left the party.) I told her that was nice and didn't think anything of it.

Then the chick that was giving me directions was asking me a bunch of questions on the way back about me and if I dated and stuff, obviously hitting on me. I just answered all of them and didn't really try to flirt back. I wasn't trying to not flirt back, I was just answering without really thinking.

We got back to the party and this other chick who was just a big of a slut as me started to talk to me about sex in front of everybody. I was fine, but then my friend who I was DDing for said "Hey you guys should give us a show! Like right here!" She looked at me with a look that said "Well, do you want to?" and I just played it off. I told her I would next time she was sober or if I was drunk too to make it seem like I wanted to.

Most of the people left and it was just me, the friend I was DDing for and the two chicks who were interested in me. We went outside to smoke a cigarette and then me and the girl who wanted me to fuck her in front of everybody started to really, really talk about sex with me. The other people left us alone, trying to give us a hint I guess, but I didn't make a move on this chick.

I went home with my friend later and I wondered what the hell was wrong with me. I just turned down sex with 3 women within 2 hours when I haven't had sex in 3 months. And I think the reason why is because of the 16 year old I've been talking to. But this is kind of scary- I love sex. Like, I LOVE sex. And I'm turning it down for this girl. What the hell does this mean? Is this my subconscious telling me that I care about this girl and maybe she'll be someone that I should try to develop a relationship with?

/really long story.

you could have sex with me

To start off...having that much sex with so many girls is dangerous in itself...even if you use protection. So, I would warn you to stop that.

You're the only one that knows if you have feelings for the girl. Look deep inside yourself to see. It's perfectly normal to fall for someone.

Maybe your time away from sex has opened up your mind to the possibility of settling down with just one girl.

This could be your chance to see if you can be in a long-term relationship.

Ok so you love sex. Who doesn't? If there were a drug that could mimic an orgasm, I'm sure most people would be addicts.

What bothers me is that you seem to think you can't love sex with a girl you care about. You're not going to die if you turn down and opportunity to have sex. You're not going to die if you develop feelings for someone instead of just having random hookups. Everyone decides what's right for them at different points in their lives - but why do you see having a relationship as synonymous with something "wrong" with you? Why do you see turning down sex as having something wrong with you?

By the way, being known as a womanizer, boy toy etc is NOT a good thing. Sure you might not mind it, but some day you're going to meet a girl you really want to give it a try with (even if it's not this one) and she'll turn you down because you have such a reputation of being a male slut. We might not see eye to eye on this one and I'm OK with that, but I really don't see the up side of going home with 30 girls in a 3 month period. Nobody of quality is going to respect you, and never mind that you open yourself up to 101 diseases and social bullshit. I'm surprised you haven't ended up with a stalker by now - what can you know about somebody in 1 night?

I'm not trying to come off as preachy just because I do things a different way. I just don't get your mindset that it can be sex OR a relationship, or to have a relationship you have to give up sex.

Someone should really be checking this for copy-pasta.

This is actually srs bsns, no pasta here. I just came back from hanging out with this chick again. We went to the beach for a while at and looked at the stars and clouds and then went back to her house and watched a movie for a little while. Idk this is all just a shock for me, it's like night and day difference. I've been turning down sex, I haven't smoked pot for a week and a half (that's a while for me) and now I'm thinking about being in a long-term relationship.

I guess since all my other friends had long term relationships when we were younger and I never did I subliminally told myself they weren't for me and pushed them away.

Maybe it is bad that I see turning down sex as a bad thing, I'm not sure. I guess I got this idea in my head that the more sex I had the better. Honestly though the 30 some girls I was with this summer was amazing I'm not going to lie. None of them turned out to be stalkers because they were here on vacation and I didn't give them any information about me, not even my real name.

And I'm not seeing it as sex OR a relationship, I've just never been in a relationship. I've tried to be in a few (the longest lasted 2 weeks lol) but they were with the wrong girls and I got upset so I said fuck it. I guess I'll give this girl a shot.

I guess you might be one of those people who just goes through phases (like me). I mean, I'll go through a period when all I want to do is hook-up and mess around without 'any strings attached'...but then I'll just get tired of it and settle down for a while with an individual who I particularly like (even if it's not technically a relationship).

YOUR sex is on FIRE.

YEEEEEAAAAA THIS SEX IS ON FIRE

Honestly though there is nothing wrong with you, you just felt like making a thread in PS expecting some sort of response along the lines of:

Dude, this girl that you're seeing who is only 16 years old is totally your soulmate, and the reason why you aren't boning these totally awesome-hot chicks is because you might love this new girl who is only 16. Good luck broseph.

That's not really the response I was looking for, I'm definitely not looking for marriage yet. That's why I was so weirded out though, because this girl is 2 years younger than me and I'm actually being considerate of her feelings. Idk lol.

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Originally Posted by Absolution

YEEEEEAAAAA THIS SEX IS ON FIRE
Good luck broseph.

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Originally Posted by effingawwesome

Is this my subconscious telling me that I care about this girl and maybe she'll be someone that I should try to develop a relationship with?

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Probably not.
To be honest I'm the exact same way you are, huge manslut, always with a few girls at any given time, never tied down by a relationship etc etc.
That story was honestly like, reading something that I myself would have to say.

In all seriousness, I am with a girl right now who fucking tore my heart out of my chest, and I couldn't be happier. If you're wondering at all that you want a relationship with this girl, then you don't.
When a girl that you're willing to put on your chastity belt for (in terms of other girls) comes along, you'll know. There won't be a shred of doubt in your mind.

My advice? Fuck her and move on till the right one comes along.

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Originally Posted by effingawwesome

I didn't give them any information about me, not even my real name.

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I can't even begin to put myself in this state of mind.

It's easy. You make shit up. Whatever you want to be you tell them that's what you are, they never know the difference.

I guess honesty is never on the plate.

For the record I think that's pretty weak. However many people you want to sleep with or not is a personal choice, lying to that degree adds a whole other element to things.

It makes things more interesting. I was everything from a pro surfer to a truck driver to these girls.

"sup baby I work at micky dees you ask for a medium I'll give you a large ;););)"