I'm bisexual

I'm an 18 year old bi guy. I'm not out.
Last September I went into my first year of college and since then I've met and befriended some of the nicest people I've ever met.
One of my friends that i met there was the first person i ever came out to.
She was really cool with it.
After that I began telling more and more people that I trusted about my sexuality. Every single person was so nice, caring and understanding.

So the other day a friend of mine turns to me and says "So how did FRIEND A take your news?"
"What news?" says I, panicking.
"That you're bi"
"Uhm... he took it really fine. FRIEND B told me that he was really shocked and didn't expect it, but that he's fine with it"
"Oh that's really good"
"So... are you cool with all this then?"
And then my friend turned and said it: "Yeah, I've no problem with it at all... in fact... to be honest... I'm gay, but don't say it to anyone, only FRIEND X,Y and Z know"


I said the usual, that I'd be supportive and that we could help each other out with coming out and stuff.
But here's the real thing. I've never done much with guys before and I think my friend is really hot. He's gay. How do I go about asking to get with him? I can barely ask girls out... how do i do it with guys?

You are who you are, nothings going to change you, so people, if they aren't comfortable with it, just have to deal with it. I'm quite liberal socially, so I'm supportive.

If he's gay, do what you would do with a girl, try flirting? Gay guys are honestly a lot more promiscuous than females are, so he obviously wont be opposed to anything, especially if he finds you attractive.

Just flirt. See where that takes you, or call him a sexy man. His hormones will start ticking, guaranteed, especially if he finds you attractive.

It's probably not the best idea to try to bang the one person who will likely understand/support you the best through this, but that's just my opinion.

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Originally Posted by solecistic

It's probably not the best idea to try to bang the one person who will likely understand/support you the best through this, but that's just my opinion.

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Why?

If he's up for casual sex I'm definately up for it too.

Right, but you've never been with a man, correct? Do you really think it's going to be as simple as fucking and then it's done with? You really don't think there will be any lingering feelings/curiosities/weirdness/possible awkwardness if it's someone you know well who was incidentally the first person to give you a feeling of not being truly alone?

Straight friends can say they understand and support you all they like, and they're wonderful for doing it and their support is great. But I can promise you that no one will make you feel as truly understood as someone who has gone through the same thing. Don't decide to have sex with him just because he's gay and you're bi. There are TONS of gay/bi men out there for you to experiment and try things with, of that much I am positive. Be safe and smart and remember that coming out can be a tumultuous time. Don't do anything that might make it harder on yourself, that's all I'm saying. If you fuck your friend and things get weird, that's going to suck massively (no pun intended). Maybe he can introduce you to someone, instead?

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Originally Posted by solecistic

Right, but you've never been with a man, correct? Do you really think it's going to be as simple as fucking and then it's done with? You really don't think there will be any lingering feelings/curiosities/weirdness/possible awkwardness if it's someone you know well who was incidentally the first person to give you a feeling of not being truly alone?

Straight friends can say they understand and support you all they like, and they're wonderful for doing it and their support is great. But I can promise you that no one will make you feel as truly understood as someone who has gone through the same thing. Don't decide to have sex with him just because he's gay and you're bi. There are TONS of gay/bi men out there for you to experiment and try things with, of that much I am positive. Be safe and smart and remember that coming out can be a tumultuous time. Don't do anything that might make it harder on yourself, that's all I'm saying. If you fuck your friend and things get weird, that's going to suck massively (no pun intended). Maybe he can introduce you to someone, instead?

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No, I've neer been with another man sexually, although I have messed around when I was about 14.
As for the fact of making it simple, I have been having casual sex with one of my close friends from college for the past month now and it's all good. We still have a good laugh and stuff and there's no awkwardness.

Believe me I do see where you are coming from and I appreciate the advice. I shall make sure to inform him that whatever happens (if it does) will just be sex.

I'd also like to say that I don't want to fuck him because he's gay. I want to fuck him because I think he's hot. I have several gay friends but like I said, this is the first gay person that knows about my orientation.

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Originally Posted by Kal El

You are who you are, nothings going to change you, so people, if they aren't comfortable with it, just have to deal with it. I'm quite liberal socially, so I'm supportive.

If he's gay, do what you would do with a girl, try flirting? Gay guys are honestly a lot more promiscuous than females are, so he obviously wont be opposed to anything, especially if he finds you attractive.

Just flirt. See where that takes you, or call him a sexy man. His hormones will start ticking, guaranteed, especially if he finds you attractive.

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trust this guy, he knows a thing or two about picking up men

lololol

raghead got me good

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Originally Posted by solecistic

lololol

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please explain, just to make sure

She's laughing at what raghead said.

Or that's the sound you should make when engaging in homosexual/heterosexual activity. It sounds much like a turkey warble.

lolol is a gay mating call.

Be sure you use it when you hang out at gay clubs.