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    Default My gf gets hit on at work.

    Ok so my girlfriend has this job serving at a diner. We talk on the phone all the time, because we live in different cities, and she tells me how she got hit on at work. So I tell her that "it pisses me off that she gets hit on and its perfectly normal that I feel that way". She says "well its not like I have taken written on my forehead would you rather me not tell you". I say "no I don't want you to not tell me it just pisses me off", she responds "but you're the one I love and am always thinking about".

    So yeah.. I can't stop thinking about it, it just gets to me. I find myself randomly thinking about it all the time. I'm a fairly jealous person too so I guess that makes it worse. Anyone have any advice or input? And please don't be a dick about it. Thanks.

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    Deal with it... The more you worry about her running away with some guy, the less you can enjoy your relationship. If she's gonna cheat on you, she's gonna cheat on you. Just expect her not to and if she does, find someone else.

    She's telling you that she's getting hit on because she wants to know that you still get jealous. It's your choice whether you fulfill her expectations or not... if I were you I wouldn't bother. My opinion is that it's stupid to make your other half feel jealous/crap just so you can be reassured, she shouldn't need to do that. Next time don't give her a rise by letting her know you're pissed off. Just act indifferent. If she's a hot girl she'll get hit on a lot, and you won't be able to do anything about it 95% of the time. Gotta live with it.

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    Jesus, stop having trust issues. That kind of thing happens, especially if your girlfriend works at a restaurant.

    Edit:Mang beat me to it, and didn't sound as much like a dick. I suck at life.
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    Well I mean I'm not worried about her running off or cheating, shes not that kind of person. It's not like I blow up about it either, I just say "ugh that pisses me off", but I guess I should even say that huh?

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    Well there's not much you can really do about it, so it's best to just let it go.
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    She's going to cheat on you with a hairy Mexican.

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    Wait I'm not Mexican.....
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    When I worked at Taco Bell, customers would try to flirt with me all the time. Apparently it's socially acceptable to flirt with people in food services. I wouldn't worry about it.

    Plus, if she's going to cheat on you it'll probably not be with one of her customers.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KT_ View Post
    Plus, if she's going to cheat on you it'll probably not be with one of her customers.
    "You wanted to see me boss?"

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    Jealousy usually has to do with your own insecurities, as in "why wouldn't she cheat on me, there's so much better out there". She might also be trying to "test" your feelings for her by letting you know or think there's guys standing in line to get with her.

    You both need to knock it off. She DOES need to quit telling you because really, what's productive about that? She either knows you love her or she doesn't. She doesn't need to be telling you that shit and if it just to see how you react, double bitch points for her. Tell her to grow up and that you don't care. She's either with you or she's not, if she gets hit on it's up to HER what she does so what's the point of telling you?

    Then YOU need to not care. Normally I'd call you a possessive insecure douchebag, but if she's always on about the other guys that hit on her, yeah it might get to me too and I'm NOT a jealous person. But you say you are, which means you gotta sort some things out on your end. Really, your world won't fall apart if she ends up not being with you anymore. It might suck for a while but it doesn't kill you. Stop putting so much of your self esteem and energy into her and this relationship and worry about what's good about YOU and live YOUR life more. Not that you shouldn't care about your relationship but it's not healthy to get this worked up about it. If she runs off with some other guy 1) You can't do anything about it and 2) It shows what kind of person she was to begin with and you're better off.

    You both sound kinda immature with the way you're acting about all this.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KT_ View Post
    Apparently it's socially acceptable to flirt with people in food services. I wouldn't worry about it.
    I have only been hit on once by someone in the food service...and he happened to be an excellent waiter. I'm not sure which was more pathetic, a gay chubby chaser or the fact I flirted back for a free meal.

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    Guys flirt with girls all the time. Deal with it.

    Maybe she is telling you so you are aware of what goes on and that she wants you to know that even though other guys come and hit on her, she only thinks of you. Which is a good thing!

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    Quote Originally Posted by no_brains_no_worries View Post
    I have only been hit on once by someone in the food service...and he happened to be an excellent waiter. I'm not sure which was more pathetic, a gay chubby chaser or the fact I flirted back for a free meal.
    I meant the other way around. Customers hitting on employees.

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    My girlfriend gets hit on all the time but that's because blonde box of rocks is hot not because she's a whore like yours

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    Quote Originally Posted by KT_ View Post
    I meant the other way around. Customers hitting on employees.
    If a fast food place is bad, I wonder how bad it gets at Hooters? I suggest you go undercover as a Hooters employee and bring us all back some hard data...and a platter of wings.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Atmosfear View Post
    My girlfriend gets hit on all the time but that's because blonde box of rocks is hot not because she's a whore like yours
    Good! Now twist the knife! Twist it!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Atmosfear View Post
    My girlfriend gets hit on all the time but that's because blonde box of rocks is hot not because she's a whore like yours
    well mines a brunette which in my opinion are hotter and shes not a whore btw..

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    Says the guy whose girlfriend is sucking customers off in the back of a mcdonalds

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    Quote Originally Posted by Atmosfear View Post
    Says the guy whose girlfriend is sucking customers off in the back of a mcdonalds
    It's a Burger King you dolt.

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    If she lied about the anal sex, she could lie about where she works

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    marry her then you faggot

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    Quote Originally Posted by wolfgangamadeusmozart View Post
    So I tell her that "it pisses me off that she gets hit on and its perfectly normal that I feel that way".
    You can't distinguish between direct and indirect speech she'll never love you and will always cheat on you with the more grammatically refined

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    She has already slept with 3 other guys.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Oats View Post
    She has already slept with 3 other guys.
    All of whom know that that sentence is the present perfect tense.

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    Thank you for revealing the insecurities which will cause your girlfriend to leave you. Now go away.

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    I don't understand this problem, if someone hits on your girlfriend it's essentially a vicarious compliment. If you trust her (as you say you do) then simply shut the fuck up or go kill yourself (either is acceptable and/or recommended).

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    No, it's a direct compliment. A vicarious compliment implies it's only a compliment insofar as he identifies or empathises with his girlfriend, which he doesn't appear to as he is a bit jealous and needy really, whilst in fact the compliment mostly lies in someone finding something that he has (admittedly implausibly) attained attractive. Your advice remains intact, though.

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    I meant vicarious in that he has never meant the cunts who hit on his whore of a girlfriend. It's a direct compliment to her, and a compliment to him through her, thereby making it vicarious IMO.

    Also, he's probably a 14 year old emotard who met her on the internets and never in real lifes.

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    Ok but I think we can agree that the important thing to take home from this thread is that I am right

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    Well we were both right insofar as there are different ways to construct sentences and words can be used in different ways.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Think View Post
    Ok but I think we can agree that the important thing to take home from this thread is that I am right
    That she's probably doing an African-American in the ladies room right now?

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    Quote Originally Posted by simonj View Post
    Well we were both right insofar as there are different ways to construct sentences and words can be used in different ways.
    alright back off foucault

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    That she's probably doing an African-American in the ladies room right now?
    that is the lesson you take home from every thread biff so sure

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    Just do this:

    "Yeah I got hit on 42 times at work today..."
    "No wonder, look at your tits! You're freaking smoking! Anyway back to my boring conversation that's eventually going to make you go out with one of those pervs..."

    Then just drop it like it's hot because we aren't worried about other men or women hitting on our property.

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    atomic is an alpha male
    he even double posts in an act of unbridled assertion

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    Quote Originally Posted by Think View Post
    alright back off foucault
    I think any physics joke I inserted here would be wasted on you cretins...

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    Assertion without consequence.

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    She probably likes it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Atmosfear View Post
    My girlfriend gets hit on all the time but that's because blonde box of rocks is hot not because she's a whore like yours
    I lol'd.

    seriously smack that whore.

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