Thread: Just broke up with my girlfriend of 4 1/2 years. Why does it hurt so bad?

Y'know people these days are too reliant on the length of time they're with someone. "Oh well we've been together for two years." But if the bad moments outweigh the good moments then what's the point?

Yeah it sucks having a breakup. That's just one of life's facts. You don't need to wallow in pity at this point. Give yourself a week or two to be sad. It's fine, we understand. But there comes a point where you just have to get up off the couch and start living your life as a single guy. You're single. A free guy. Do things that you've wanted to do.

Four years is a long time, but the sooner you get your shit together the better you'll feel. Step one would be to stop e-crying about it :/

In all honesty you haven't CONVINCED yourself of anything or you wouldn't be having doubts about calling off the relationship. You feel like crap because you're unsure of the decision you've made. Why did you guys break up? Is it really worth throwing away a relationship you've got so much invested in? I'm sure you've asked yourself these questions and if calling off the relationship really is the right thing for you then first you have to stop beating yourself up about it. Then you have to move forward as hard as that may sound. Moving forward may consist of anything from reading a few self help books to maybe improve your next relationship. (you just might learn something about youself) Or it may simply involve taking some alone time for the very same reasons. All in all you will recover no matter what you choose. If you are second guessing your desicion it's time to do some serious soul searching.