Sorry this is a little late but an update:

I ended up joining a service fraternity (different than the fraternity I was talking about in the original post)

It's awesome.

- 70-100$ a dues a year instead of a shit ton more
- I get to drink for free this semester
- I get to do a bunch of community service ( I like doing community service)
- I get to add a ton of service hours to my resume
- all the benefits of a social fraternity without paying through my ass and partying so much

so yeah, so far win-win