I'm a fairly confident guy but I still get nervous on the first date. I couldn't do eating. Which is why for the first date I listed, I pretty much did everything but eat. When we went to Target to look at more CDs, I bought some gummies, but that was about it. We did share popcorn at the movie, though.
...you went to Tar-jay for a first date? you are such a ladies' man.
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If you don't like them, then get the fuck out.
Originally Posted by Think
I went to, in no order, for the first date:
A play-ground.
Regal Commonwealth 20.
Best Buy.
Barnes and Noble.
Target (where I bought her the "Once" soundtrack for her birthday)
Kohl's
Regal Commonwealth 20.
Every place after the play ground, we walked to. It was all within walking distance. The entire time, we had rich conversation about what we wanted out of life - at the time, I wanted to just drop everything and go to Chicago. And we talked about what an adventure that would be. We talked about practical uses of cross-walks and swing sets and DVDs and how people can find Dane Cook funny - we agreed that it was the energy he has rather than the jokes. Talked about contemporary music and global culture and finance, and what an asshole her ex-boyfriend was.
The location wasn't really the deal-maker in this case.
rohypnol
People have trouble eating and talking at the same time? I can sit down with a complete stranger and not feel awkward eating and chatting with them (unless that complete stranger is like out-of-the-park hawt). I didn't know people got self-conscious about eating in front of people. Hmm....tmyk I reckon.
Who doesn't feel like doing coke?
The straight edge ones. You know who i'm talking about
You cast bong and hit for 420 damage!
cmon everyone knows that coke sucks
Isn't straight edge what you chop out lines with?
I totally read that as: "Wait, you pulled of a rectum?"
I don't know what that means he did, but I also was impressed.
Suggestion for the OP: take her to lots of different little places is always a good idea. It means that if you're not having a huge amount of fun at one place, then you can always move onto somewhere else better. Also, mini-golf is always recommended.
that too
You cast bong and hit for 420 damage!
tidus your insecurity and bitterness are tangible right about now
I just went on a pretty decent first date myself tonight
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If you don't like them, then get the fuck out.
Congratulations. Hope it works out for you.
Thanks hun, but don't worry it's not serious yet so I'll still be there togive it to you when you need it.
But anyways, no offense:
Because the first time out, I want to spend my time getting to know my date. Movies are simply not conducive to conversations. If you sandwich it between drinks and meal or more drinks, you're talking about like a 5 or 7 hour evening out if you're really going to dedicate the time needed to conversation.Also, I don't get why people keep shitting on the movie idea? It's simple, you go for drinks or coffee first and chat, then you go see a movie (something light hearted, indie-comedies are usually quite good for dates) and then you go for a meal/more drinks afterwards. That way, if the conversation is hard to come by because of nerves or a lack of familiarity then you can just talk about the movie you just watched.
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If you don't like them, then get the fuck out.
Huh. The only nice coffee shops here are either Starbucks, which I fear because I can't stand the wifi laptop assholes, and a place called Juice and Java. JJ is fun, but no matter what time or day you go there, forty or so goth kids will be hanging out there.
Which is the lesser of two evils?
I'm not sure. Me and my friend are quite pretentious, judgemental and bitchy so mocking the laptop assholes and goth kids would just be part of our fun. If you're a funny enough person or if the two of you are funny enough together then that can really make the time enjoyable. But then again, with most other people that wouldn't necessarily work, we spend 90% of our time laughing and we have exactly the same sense of humour etc. If I did the same thing with other friends it would get boring pretty quickly and I'm not sure how I would go about doing it on dates (I've always gone to bars). Although I assume coffee houses are less full of assholes in the evenings when the date is likely to take place.
Oh yes, this reminds me of meeting gay people for friends or potential dates in Dupont Circle, which is an epicenter for gay life in DC. After having drinks and chatting, it's fun to sit along the perimeter of the circle and insert in our conversation commentary about the freaky people we see walk by: closet jocks who live their lives in the gay clubs, men whose bellies are sagging out beneath their tight-fitting shirts, men wearing clothes normally reserved for women, etc.
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If you don't like them, then get the fuck out.
I guess I've never been on a real first date since high school doesnt really count.
I cant really imagine going on a date and not knowing the person.
This. That whole first date shit is just bullshit. Talk to her, chill for a bit and fuck her. If you like it then keep doing it.
Also, typical first dates don't really go on for 4-7 hours. That's not even desirable. It puts undue strain on just about everything.
So, drinks, movie, drinks, talking is kind of a leap. I know that I have work M-F, and on the weekends, I tend to stay out later, but if I don't know that about the girl, I would plan an all day all night all morning kind of thing. It seems superfluous and assumptive/presumptuous.
My last first date lasted 12 hours. First dates can be long and still be productive, you just have to be able to read the situation and end things before you run out of things to say or before things get weird.
But still, no movie. No movie no movie no movie. That is unless you know the chick really really digs you and you can get out of any kind of movie awkwardness unscathed and/or you don't really like her and don't care. My last relationship actually started with both of those scenarios, but she grew on me as the night progressed (because she made the date go on after the movie).
Well, I mean, the first date I had with the latest lady lasted for around a whole day, too. And I forgot the OP has known the girl for a while, so a long date is perfectly acceptable. I was just giving general advice. That one is on me.
Also, a terrible first date I went on?
Well, there's some back story:
I got this girls number, a week later, called her, asked her out, got the brush off. Took a hint. Went around, lost a lot of weight, Facebooked her. We started chatting over that fabulous ap, and I found out she was going to be in town, so I told her I deleted her number due to inactivity and would need it again if we were going to hang out. I told her I really wanted to take her to a movie.
So, we met up at the theater.
The following 2 hours were completely silent. I was sitting next to a girl I hadn't seen in well over a year - she was super nice, very pretty, all that good stuff, but I couldn't really say anything to her. There were people everywhere. It was just not fun. I mean, the movie was okay - I love Anton Yelchin and Robert Downey Jr., although Kat Dennings tends to grate on my nerves - but when we left, I had no idea what to talk about. I didn't know if she was into analyzing movies or who her favorite actors were. The conversation was stilted.
I invited her back to my place to hang out, and she followed me there. She's allergic to cats, I found out. I have three of them, or rather, my family does. She told me earlier she was allowed to stay out as late as she wanted, but decided to call it a night at 11. It might have had something to do with the fact that her face was swelling up and all that jazz, but she told me she had fun and that I should call her again.
I did, she she gave me the brush off.
We're still friends. She invited me to a clue-themed party at her house, and this time, I was far more charming and funny and less nervous, as there were more people around, but I knew nothing was going to happen. If there was a moment, it had passed, and I was no longer interested. Which also helped ease me up.
But I mean, movies if you don't know the person? Not the best idea.
Kat Dennings is super hawt
QFT
Agreed.
But also really annoying. I hate her voice.
EDIT: But she was tolerable in Nick and Nora.
That movie wasnt nearly as inhumane to watch as I thought it would be.
It came as my netflix today, I'm gonna watch it alone in my room later tonight.
Pathetic y/n?
Take it for what it is and you will Enjoy.
It's not pathetic, but its soppy as shit.
stop it you are feeding his ego
I like doing the whole "Drinking and/or Smoking Pot with her"(if she doesn't do either than maybe drink a small amount myself because I R boozehound) and go Ice Skating, then hang out at a nice park after a nice dinner, something different like Thai or Indian or something.
Of course at said park you have some friends waiting and have you a good ol' fashioned gang rape. Nothing more romantic than that.
lik dis if u cry evertim
The first date should be anonymous sex in a darkened room. If you like it, then you can introduce yourselves to each other with a good old fashioned "Hi, my name is..." If not, then leave the room without saying a word.
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If you don't like them, then get the fuck out.
Ideal first date:
Do you love to play Super Mario Brothers on the Classic Nintendo System? Do you like to get tagged from behind while you do it? This is the post for you then.
You must know your way around the game before we meet, must be open to anal sex, also able to fake an orgasm is a plus.
I will send you the address to a hotel and a room number. When you arrive the door will be open. Please come in close and lock the door and close the shades if they are still open. I will be in the bathroom and the door will be closed. Turn on the TV and the Nintendo. Remove all of your clothing. Turn off all lights in the room and kneel down on the bed so you are directly in the light of the TV. You need to be facing the TV with your butt in the air pointed toward the pillows on the bed.
Press the start button on the controller when you are ready. I will hear the sound and turn the light off in the bathroom and come out. You will not look directly at me, only look at the TV. When the first level starts I will begin to finger you and lick you. I will be using lots of lube as well.
When you reach the end of level one, make sure to trigger the fireworks. This is vital to the entire experience. I must hear the fireworks. When level 2 begins and Mario walks into the pipe, I will penetrate you. You may say things like, "MORE", "HARDER", "YES", "fucc ME", but nothing else. I will continue having sex until the level ends. DO NOT take the secret level skip. If you die I will pull out and spank you until the level restarts.
When you reach the flag you must again trigger the fireworks, and also orgasm. I will pull out. When the 1-3 starts I will penetrate your ass. You are allowed to say something like "OH GOD", "YES", OR "IT HURTS" no other conversation is allowed.
When level 1-4 starts I will alternate between holes as I see fit. You may beg me to cum inside or outside of you, depending on what you want. When boss falls and you reach the princess I will pull out and blow my load where you have convinced me I want too. You may then say something like "Thanks", "It was great", "I loved it", "Don't stop"
If I am impressed you may continue playing and I will continue to pleasure you. If I am not, I will turn the Nintendo Off and return to the bathroom. At this time you may clean your self with the towel that is beside the bed. Turn the lights on, redress yourself and leave.
I may come back out and talk to you as you dress but the conversation will most likely be short and revolve around scheduling another time to get together.
Or discuss strategy.
The date got rearranged to tonight VERY abrubtly. She called me and said she had to go away for work on Friday morning and could I do tonight?
Drinks at mine was her idea.
All I can say about it is that there will be no second date.
i think you owe the internet an explanation after this long goddamn thread
Seconded
Thirded.
How did you fuck up drinks at your place?
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