All women want is dick and are upset if you don't give it to them. just kidding

As far as I understand it, you blowing your steam and trying to get an answer out of her has aggravated her. I don't know why you want a verbal confirmation when it seems to me you are getting some obvious physical cues. I think you are too deep into this and need to stand back for a while and look over the whole thing... like you are too involved into the situation. I don't know man. If I don't know what to do, I would do as you do and ask advice, but while doing that I'd stand far back as possibly as I can. If you lose out on the relationship then I wouldn't worry there is plenty of fish in the sea.