So last weekend I couldn't make it to my parents' house for a weekend cookout, and because of that I missed my sister and brother-in-law. It isn't exactly a rare thing for me to miss out on family things, I sort of keep to myself, but I really enjoy holidays and the like.

So anyway I get home and there's a call from mom on the answering machine saying they missed me blah blah wish you were there, etc. and at the end of the message saying (with a heavy sigh) that "..your brother-in-law said that he'd be coming down to take you out next weekend whether you like it or not.."

Now don't get me wrong, normally this would be cool. But I can't fucking stand my brother-in-law. He's annoying, has physically abused my sister in the past (which almost ended in a divorce), and whenever we DO hang out, he winds up cracking a sexual jokes about my sister, and has a knack for calling my own father an idiot to my face, to which I've said many choice words and made plenty of threats.

I've kept these things secret from the rest of the family, because while I hate his guts, my sis has two little girls, and while he does seem like a douche, he treats them really well, and I don't want to cause drama in the family that could have bad results.

So anyway, the weekend starts tomorrow, and I really don't want to see or hear this guy, but at the same time I feel like I have to be nice and accepting since he's part of the family. Would it be right for me to tell him to leave me the fuck alone? Or should I just bear it as he takes me out to 'entertain' me? I mean he is family regardless, and I feel bad for brushing off family.

Another point is that he hasn't called me all week about this weekend, so I'm getting like zero notice about where we're going or when. And there's no way I'm calling him (he never gets the hint when I avoid him). That alone is enough to get out of it this weekend, but I really would like to.. you know.. NEVER hang out.. hah

What do you guys think?